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Who hasn't wondered, as a woman, if traveling is safe, and who hasn't looked at the recorded cases of violence in the destination where you think you are traveling? How is it possible nowadays to have to look behind your back? To find out about security measures? Or to see comments that a woman MUST travel in a group or with a man?

What a sad world, where corruption is everywhere. Should we stop doing things we want to do just to protect ourselves? I don't think so, but unfortunately, it is important to take precautions and especially to rely on the only person who can help you, yourself.

There is nothing more shameful than attacking someone and it doesn't matter what ethnicity, gender, or any other differences they may have! Certainly, the watchword is to take care of yourself, and that in any circumstances! Unfortunately, there is no country nowadays where a woman can feel safe, this is a sad reality.

With social networks, we can discover the hidden faces of the countries, where often insecurity rhymes dangerously with the "woman". But then what would be the solution to protect ourselves? Should we stop traveling? Should we stop going out at night? Or any other fact that makes our lives risky?

As I write this article, I am leaving for South Korea, and before leaving, I came across a video about women who have been sexually abused, in a country where the laws are not in favor of foreigners! Also worse are the comments, where many women (men too) are victims of men with scrupulous values! As soon as I finish reading and watching this video, I am filled with doubts that do not let me sleep peacefully! Did I make the right choice? This country is considered the safest in the world, is it? Now, the doubt carries me away for my safety!

Is it normal to feel this fear? No! I try to overcome my fear, telling myself that I am the only one capable of taking care of myself. Why let men dictate how I want to live my life?! Even for travel! Sure, things happen EVERYWHERE, and I stay cautious, that's the key. Caution! Unfortunately, even around my house, men of a certain age look at me up and down, like meat he would like to eat! This is not normal! I don't ask for anything, just to live as I expect without having to constantly be afraid of men, making my love life chaotic, thinking that most men are predators. Is it normal to hide through your style of dress? To the point where I don't dress the way I expect, and allow myself to dress the way I like, only when I'm at home, within my 4 walls, the only place I feel safe. And even if I dress as camouflaged as possible, some men are still men (sadly), when they feel like looking at you or approaching you dirty, they will do it! Giving themselves all the rights then!

I won't stop living for them. Even though I'm shy, I won't stop myself from believing that I can do things alone. Why should I wait until I have a boyfriend to do things? No, on this point, I don't agree. The same goes for doing things in a group.

I don't have a boyfriend and my group of friends are now busy with their family lives! So what should I do? Wait for my Prince Charming to come and deliver me to a safer life.

To all the women around the world, don't be afraid to follow your dreams, there will always be people around us with bad intentions, no matter what their intentions are. Let's not stop living, for the simple reason that we are women, wherever the world still has monsters. Life should have only one door, the one we choose to live, a life full of twists and turns.

Why should we hide, when our governments, no matter what world we are in, sometimes turn a blind eye to despicable acts? Deciding to protect the monsters and not the victims. As long as the world does not change, there will be its predators, those people who believe that we are objects that can be used for good. It's time to say stop, stop to this society that doesn't push anyone to be themselves, a society that rules by fear, letting evil rule through everything. How tired we are to fight, saying stop, to say no.

Even if it is important to be vigilant, it seems to me that we should not fall into paranoia either, pushing us to not do things as we felt at the beginning. It is important to listen to ourselves, as long as there is no place where we can be safe, to do what pushes us, keeping in mind that we are our protection and that our dreams are not to be destroyed by others. Let's not give up on who we are.

Always remember, even if there is a dark side to life, that it is also good. Certainly, remember that things are happening in the world, but without falling into a paralyzing fear. And that should not stop us from doing things. I will not stop living. And even if I stay at home to feel safe, a part of me will be inanimate, not experiencing what I want, which would happen to extinguish a part of me.

The world, at present, is not changing, but will change if we start to believe that it can become a better place for anyone and that by helping each other!

Let's stay alert and united in a world where we need to turn the light.